Andy, hi I saw that they were the exact same, thats how I diagnosed the issue. Just looking for a replacement that is a direct fit. TR65 pm'd me this: My relay is a Song Chuan 804-1A-C1
Here is the spec sheet on it.
http://www.therelaycompany.com/datafiles/804.pdf
Here is an ebay listing for it ($3.60+$6.00)
http://www.ebay.com/itm/1pc-Car-Powe...-/140473712708
Of course you could splice in most any 30 amp automotive relay with the pigtail that goes with it.