Farewell Fine People

[PanelDeland]

I can't add much to what was said before except it's a part of growing up.The only thing that really surprises me is that a 17 year old in this day and age has the cahoneys to own up to a mistake and suffer the consequences without much complaint.
Stay the course of their punishment and do a few extra unrequired chores to show them you understand and to help let them know you do want to re-earn their trust.

[Arizona oldguy]

We learn one of two ways, someone who love's us tells us or we go out and do it and learn from hard knocks. Be thankful your parents care enough to discipline you, looking the other way is easier. Seems you have the right attitude. Hang in there time will pass and you will be better for it.

[dave2953]

It's good that you realize you made a mistake, and like others have said it's also great that you respect what your parents think and feel. Also, the fact that you didn't drive anywhere shows that you are wiser than your years. I do feel, however, that what you did is just a part of growing up and not the end of the world. Sounds like you parents kind of freaked out on you. When I was in high school we lived in England and I was doing the same things and worse. Your parents will get over it in time and everything will be alright. Sounds like you learned your lesson, though.

[Select]

Been there before, disappointment sucks. I've drank my share before 21 and after as well. I don't drink anymore and it's been good. It's not all it's cracked up to be. Good luck and hope you aren't in lock down for to long, they will get over it, lesson learned.

[1970cstblazer]

You are a rarity, sir, and are to be commended not for the drinking, but that you are taking full "no BS" responsibility for your wrongdoing.

Keep your chin up..

[BillGent]

The first time I pulled that I came home and fell through the shower doors while throwing up. It was a mess. My mom did the same thing.. cried her heart out. I never forgot it and neither will you. Nor should you forget it. We learn by our mistakes.. idiots don't.

It's good you are taking full responsibility. Its the markings of a man not to make excuses. Your parents obviously raised you right.

[Sillyoldman]

I can tell that you are a smart kid. Things will smooth out. Your parents obviously have high expectations for you. I wonder whats going to change when you turn 21?

[72 Super]

Atleast you know what you did was wrong, your parents will foregive you in time. Atleast you weren't driving. Hopefully you will be back soon.

[chevyboy55]

Dylan
I'm betting this wont be the last time in life you screw up so just try to learn from it.P.S. I know from experience how much it hurts when your dad says he's disappointed in you. Mine came on the ride home from the Police station after being arrested on my birthday.

[67_C-30]

Originally Posted by PanelDeland

I can't add much to what was said before except it's a part of growing up.The only thing that really surprises me is that a 17 year old in this day and age has the cahoneys to own up to a mistake and suffer the consequences without much complaint.
Stay the course of their punishment and do a few extra unrequired chores to show them you understand and to help let them know you do want to re-earn their trust.

Agreed. Owning up to it and caring that you let them down a is really good thing, because I lot of kids don't care.

[502tripower]

Good things come from experiences. Life is full of them. If you continue in the manner you have expressed in this thread I am sure your parents will get over this and you will know better. Just one last note. If you do drive remember push the accelerator to the floor and slide your foot off of the clutch pedal. This will get your reflexes going real fast and make you think twice about what you are doing...

[Albatrossian]

It's good that you owned up to your mistake. You've got the makings of a fine man. We'll keep the light on for ya in the chat room. Your parents will forgive you, make no mistake. They love you and I do believe they've raised a fine son.

[watahyahknow]

in the netherlands you can legaly drink at 18 thats allso the age you can buy stronger stuff at the licourstore think it was 17 or 16 that you can buy beer and low alcohol beverages .

i been happy drunk a couple of times at age 18 not stupor drunk "i cant remember wat i did last night" and never intend to do so if i can help it , wats the use of doing that when you cant remember afterwarth .

being drunk is basicly alcoholpoisoning and yes its bad for you the hangover is because it draws all the fluids out of youre body to get rid of the alcohol (pee) ot destroyes braincells and make you look 50 at the age of 25 if youre drunk on a daily basis , its more adictive than drugs with the exception of crack (same goes for nicotene by the way ) and still its legal

never ever drink and drive or drive along with someone who is not even when you think its ok , if it was only youre own life you put at risk it wouldnt be a problem (youre sane enough to decide for youre own actions ) but for some reason its allways someone else that get hurt or killed by a drunk driver who for some reason survives most of the time ...... i wouldn't be able to live with causing that because i was drunk

[Cyclone44]

Dylan, It will get better man just let your parents know that you are aware of the mistake that you made.....You convinced me with your letter.....Don't do it to get your privileges back...Do it to make peace with your parents....It will all work it's self out from there....Good luck Dylan...

[corn]

I get the feeling that you are gonna turn out alright! Its nice to see a kid with a good head on his shoulders.


Oh, I sure am glad your mom didnt have to put up with me when I was your age. Wow, she would be MAD! I hope your parents are like I am, I always give in after a day or three. Hang in there, time flies...

[old Rusty C10]

sounds like you learned a good lesson.. in time the wounds will heal just keep communicating.. I wish my own kids had some of the respect you have for your parents

[robmrtnbb5]

Be glad you have a mom and dad to care sooooooooooo much things will blow over and youll be ok hang in their

[retodd7711]

Sounds like your parents are doing a fine job raising a good son.
As long as your grounded, use this time to talk about the issues a 17 year old has growing up.
Keep the lines of communication open and rebuild the trust they had(and still have) in you.
Your a lucky man to have two parents who really care. Lots of kids don't even have one.

[El Jay]

Originally Posted by *Dylan

Well, I just figured I'd say see you guys in a few months (probably when I turn 18). I did something stupid and my parents found out about it so now I have to pay the consequences. It was my fault and I take full responsibility for it and now I'm being grounded and and everything I have is being taken from me. I'm not allowed to go anywhere or do anything for who knows how long.

Figure I might as well let you guys know what it is too. I'm 17 and I went to a party and got drunk for the first time. Parents found out, and let me tell you, nothing anyone has ever said to me has brought me to tears other than what my parents said when they found out last night. My mom couldn't even look me in the eye much less talk to me though her uncontrollable tears and sobbing. When she finally did talk to me it was yelling and screaming, as well as the first time she's ever cussed me out. My dad, this was the first time he's ever told me that he was disappointed in me and made it a statement telling me I broke my mothers heart. Walking through my house it just felt like my whole world was falling down around me. Never have I felt so much emotional pain as knowing I was the one that disappointed my father and mother, and I was the sorry bastard that put my mom to tears. You know it's bad when you nor your parents can look each other in the eye.

So, with that said, never wanting to go through that again I'll never drink til' I'm 21 because there is no way I could go through losing the trust of my parents like I did last night and going through all of this again. I've let myself and my family down and it's a wretched feeling.

Goodbye til whenever.
Dylan

PS: On one last leaving note, if you're still living with your parents, don't drink, it's not worth it if you have to go through what I or my parents went through last night. You'll never forget how it feels like your hearts being ripped from your chest. It's not worth it guys.

I haven't read past your post, so I don't know what others have posted. I hate to sound like a hard a$$, but I congratulate your parents for what they have done.
You now have a hard lesson learned, but it was learned before there were any "real" consequences.
By the tone of your post I'd say you learned your lesson well.

I'll finish by saying that I'm not being critical. I've done dumber things than that & fortunately have been lucky enough to not get caught/busted.

Good Luck.

[texanidiot25]

Besides the occasional glass of wine at family diners, I don't drink. Don't like beer much anyways, the two types I've tried (Bud and Corona, not a strong track record haha). But, by all means my dad bought me my 1st, but we had a good "Excuse" to split the pint:


Radiator overflow.

But, by all means, if I was in the same situation my ass would have been in the same sling. Just how I was raised, and glad for it.

[exmonkeypunk]

Man, that stinks. I Found alcohol to be a waste for me. I don't like the taste of it, and i don't like how you feel the next day. I don't drink. Everyone has to learn the alcohol lesson at some point. Good luck with everything.