Well I modified/shortened the cross member I had and was able to get it installed. Then I realized I put the damn thing in backwards so I had to take it out and swap it around. Duh.
Considering this isn't the right cross member, it fit pretty well. I still need to drill the holes in the frame to mount it, but the engine is bolted to it with no issues.
I did gain some clearance between the pumkin and the cross member, but not a whole lot. I'm hoping with the bump stops installed it won't hit. If it does, I'll just either take it very easy or put a 2-4" lift on the truck. At least the cross member is a lot more sturdy than those home made engine mount brackets that were on the truck! I'll get some pictures so you guys can see what I'm talking about.